Both my grandparents used to spank me when I was little and I always have a open relationship with them. I talk to my grandmother about the stupidest things all the time and what I've done in fact I live with her. It's not about beating it's about the abuse that is commonly associated with it. If you spank and make sure they know why and understand then you are all good. If you are just always yelling and hitting then you aren't doing it right either. I spank my cousins when they need it (at my grandma's request because she's to old to) because their parent's don't discipline or control them in any fashion. The youngest didn't talk till he was 3 he just pointed and cried. He had the ability just was spoiled beyond belief. When he was over here with us my grandma wouldn't give him anything until he used words and I did the same. He has turned out just fine.